Even though long-distance relationships can be quite tricky and sometimes even frustrating, they can still be just as healthy and stable as any other relationship. True, there are many sacrifices to be made, but there are also many ways in which a long-distance relationship can be good for you and help you improve yourself and your lifestyle. So, if you are in one such relationship – or if you’re considering getting into one – here are a few ways in which it can help you become a better version of yourself.
Organizing your time
Due to living in different time zones (if that is the case), you will probably have a set time for Skype calls, chats, or some other form of communication. This means that you will most likely organize your time around your “online dates”, which is how a long-distance relationship can help you not just organize your time more wisely but also use it more efficiently. This can benefit not only your relationship but your lifestyle in general, as you will be more comfortable with routines and deadlines, which are a common part of our modern world.
Moreover, in long-distance relationships, time is one of the most valuable things you can give each other. So, besides learning how to use it and manage it, you will also learn how to appreciate it.
It’s the little things
One thing you learn when in a long-distance relationship is appreciating the little things – the handwritten letters you send each other, surprise gifts, love notes, and even the cute emoji that can never fully express your emotions. And you know that you would give anything just to be able to hug your partner once, let alone kiss them or more. It’s the little things that matter – not just in relationships but in life. Plus, learning how to appreciate them while you are far away from each other will make you appreciate them even more when you finally meet.
Setting the goals
Setting long-term and short-term goals is an important skill in life, since it can help you stay in control of different situations, observe your progress, and stay motivated in the long run. When it comes to such goals, a good long distance relationship can’t really function without them. The goals you make will range from the simple ones, like watching a movie at the same time, to the more important ones, like meeting in real life. Either way, your relationship can teach you how to make goals that will guide it – and once you learn how to make such goals, you can incorporate that skill into every other aspect of your life as well.
Controlling your emotions
When you and your partner get into a fight, in normal circumstances, one of you could always show up at the other one’s door with a box of chocolates and some flowers, and the issues would be discussed and solved. On the other hand, when you’re in a long-distance relationship, you don’t really have a chance to do that, and blocking your partner on all your social media accounts can seem too easy when you get angry. However, by doing so, you are pretty much disabling them from even trying to fix the problem – and what if you calm down and unblock them just to find out that they’ve blocked you as well?
In other words, ending a long-distance relationship is much easier than doing so when you are face-to-face, and renewing it can be much harder, which is why controlling your emotions is a skill you will inevitably have to learn if you want your long-distance relationship to last.
Last but not least, being in this kind of relationship will teach you how to be realistic about your goals, expectations, and possibilities. True, as in every other relationship, it will probably seem dreamy and unreal at the beginning. However, as the time passes and you become aware of the downsides, you will also create a more realistic image of your relationship. When this happens, you will start thinking about the future of such relationship, the sacrifices, and the time it will take until it becomes “more real”.
But you will also start thinking about everything you can gain if you commit yourself fully and the ways of making your future plans a reality. All in all, when in a long-distance relationship, there will be plenty of time for thoughts and considerations, and staying realistic is a skill that can help you determine the path you want to follow in regard to your love life.
Long-distance relationships are always a challenge, but when challenges are overcome, they make us better and stronger than ever before. Therefore, embrace your relationship – be realistic about it, but never be afraid of it. Love is always scary, but if it’s true, it will definitely be worth it.